Louisville Ranks No. 1 In Online Porn Searches 12
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In addition to searching for the fastest horse and the best barbecue, the people of Louisville, Kentucky love looking for something else: online porn. BusinessInsider.com conducted a study using Google Trends and found Louisville residents the most likely to search for obscene material online. "You want to be number one in a lot of different things, but you certainly don't want to be number one for obscene searches across the entire country," said Bryan Wickens, president of Reclaim Our Culture Kentuckiana.
Why society really hates porn... (Score:4, Insightful)
"I've had wives come up to say they've almost lost their husbands who were caught up in a secret world that they knew nothing about and didn't know what they were involved in," he said. "Marriages destroyed, guys that have lost jobs.
A little history first... Guys like sex. A lot. They seek it from partners, usually women. This hasn't changed since the dawn of time. This is usually the primary need of a man's psyche, and though among many needs, sex dominates male thought. Society invented marriage as a way to capitalize on this and other desires. Man wants sex, so he supports the source of his sexual release with security - which just happens to be high on a woman's list as well. Other mutual exchanges exist as well. Needs being routinely met shaped relationship roles and this went on largely unchanged for a very long time. Everyone got what they wanted in these limited terms, and the exchange worked. When men and women went outside of this arrangement, punishments were meted out. Exchanging sex outside the home and/or living in someone else's household were extremely taboo, for example.
In recent years, however, we have decided that women want and deserve MORE. Their security and other needs should be supplemented by their own career efforts. Care of children is replaced by daycare and care of the home is replaced by fast food and paper plates. We inflated the supply side of the woman's part of the exchange by redirecting her energies towards previously male pursuits, and women stopped needing and.or wanting to exchange sex for security. They were getting their security from the same place men got it, and the man's primary attractors had been replaced.
Due to the invention of the internet, men discovered they can have MORE as well. Online porn meant their sexual identity was no longer under the control of their wives, and porn from home meant the risks were a lot lower as well. Other needs may or may not still be an issue, but sexual gratification was now a click away, and the wife need not even know about it.
As you can see, our societal roles are now out of balance. Everyone is paying cash for the things they want, and there no longer exists any selfish need for a family unit. We are okay with meting out the old punishments for men getting sex online, but we're conflicted because they don't actually make sense. Nothing is really lost or gained, and no one outside the home got involved, but we're uneasy and concerned that something 'bad' has happened. We prop this up with extreme examples that help us describe why our bad feeling is correct - examples such as abuse and addiction - and it gets us closer to comfortable again. The problem, however, is that the underlying structure on which monogamy is built is still corrupted.
This will work itself out in time. I'm not at all sure how, but it will.