The Real 'Stuff White People Like' 286
Here's an interesting and funny look at 526,000 OkCupid users, divided into groups by race and gender and all the the things each groups says it likes or is interested in. While it is far from being definitive, the groupings give a glimpse of what makes each culture unique. According to the results, white men like nothing better than Tom Clancy, Van Halen, and golfing.
sigh (Score:2, Insightful)
Inherent skew (Score:1, Insightful)
Nascar??? (Score:2, Insightful)
I looked at the lists I'm sure all involved will be offended.
Anybody for a small wager? (Score:5, Insightful)
I bet if the site allowed you to keep part of your profile private, with access reserved only for your buddies, a certain multi-ethnic theme would emerge. A predilection for BJ's would cross all cultural barriers and leap to number one on the list of things most guys like.
High fives all 'round. Woot, woot!
as a white person... (Score:2, Insightful)
I hope we make contact with aliens soon so we can stop worrying about the color of the humans and start worrying about humans in general.
Re:white men? (Score:5, Insightful)
Re:Science != Statistics (Score:3, Insightful)
Actually Subset(Science)=Subset(Statistics). Would you also like some venn diagrams with that?
Re:The female responses . . . (Score:3, Insightful)
"Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation."
Oscar Wilde
Since when is "white" a culture? (Score:2, Insightful)
They can divide this up by white/black/asian/indian/etc, but they aren't dividing it up by culture. Quite often whites in America have very little in common... just like Taiwanese and Koreans have very little in common (aside from being 'asian')... or Tanzanians and Russians... T^T
Race? (Score:4, Insightful)
White is not a race and neither is black.
Just saying.
Idiot Online Dating Sites (Score:0, Insightful)
Seriously, what kind of losers join online dating sites? I'm no jock, in fact in my teenage years, I was the painfully shy stereotypical Star Trek nerd. I actually hid in my room when people come visit. My parents also nicknamed me the "Wet Blanket" because of my typically nerdish cynical view of life . Finally, I realized that going on this way will not only label me as a loser forever, but also an "evolutionary loser" since I will never pass down my genes. I took a deep breath, joined a hiking club, found that I was good at it, also found out that I was a natural leader and good at public speaking, impressed a girl,who later became my girlfriend, who later became my wife. All you reading this and are thinking of joining online dating sites better rethink your lives or you end up being life long losers living alone with 100 cats. Instead, go join a real-life club or organization where you meet people face to face. There are thousands of sports clubs, volunteering organizations, hobby groups, social clubs etc. that are a million times more useful and satisfying than reading some stranger's made-up online profile.
100 Cats? (Score:5, Insightful)
Well, I think 100 is a bit excessive, but how about 1 or 2? I used to live with 2 cats but now only have one and think it is wonderful but what really makes my life enjoyable is the 40k comic books that I own. And no, I don't see anything wrong with being a nerd! I feel that I have been a happier person than most other people and my "secret" is to simply do what *I* enjoy and not giving a damn whether other people do the same thing and/or approve of it or not!
lies in the summary... (Score:2, Insightful)
the groupings give a glimpse of what makes each culture unique
NOT TRUE. the groupings give a glimpse of what makes members each culture who would sign up for a dating website named "okcupid" unique.
Re:The female responses . . . (Score:3, Insightful)
Uhhh... (Score:4, Insightful)
I'm pretty sure this should be categorized under "The Wrong Kind of White People".
Re:The female responses . . . (Score:3, Insightful)
And in a twisted way, this is natural selection at work.
Like many nerds, you are over analysing (Score:5, Insightful)
Such stuff is an ADVERTISEMENT. The woman is trying to sell herself, so she lists stuff that she thinks make her attractive to others.
Normal people don't spend all their time thinking everything through as if it is a move in a chess game.
Think of it as going to an exotic location on holiday just to bake in the sun. You want to world to see you as an exciting person who has seen the world, when all you really want to do is not do anything at all.
Really, the reason nerds often do bad with women is because they overthink it all. STOP. If women were complicated, jocks wouldn't be able to deal with them.
Re:Idiot Online Dating Sites (Score:3, Insightful)
It's not an either/or thing. You can join a dating site and go out and meet people. Having hobbies and meeting people is healthy even if you already have a relationship. Joining a hiking club with the explicit expectation to pick up a girl there is not such a good idea. It might happen, but it's not what hiking clubs are for (unlike dating sites).
I go out and meet people, my wife goes out and meets people, yet we met on a dating site. My brother goes out and meets people but is still single. Dating sites definitely fill a useful role, and according to various surveys, they do often lead to healthy and stable relationships. Don't expect them to be a substitute for having a life, because they're not. But that doesn't mean they add nothing of value.
Re:Since when is "white" a culture? (Score:3, Insightful)
It's not race, it's culture. There are typical "black" and "white" subcultures in the US. Or at least subcultures where not every skin color is proportionally represented. Not every person with black or white skin identifies with those subcultures, but they will have a big impact on these kind of statistics.
There is of course also a geek/engineering culture. From these OKCupid statistics, you can tell that a significant number of Asians and Indians (don't they also come from Asia?) identify with geeky/engineering themes, whereas among whites and blacks they get completely drowned in the much larger numbers of jocks/hiphoppers/etc. Is that because Asians and Indians are genetically that much more disposed towards engineering? Or could it be that they come from a culture that values engineering more? Or maybe Indians and Asians with valuable engineering skills are more likely to migrate to the US than their non-engineer relatives.
There's really a lot more culture than race involved in these lists.
Re:The female responses . . . (Score:3, Insightful)
"Fuck off, Elmo"
Oscar the Grouch
Re:Race? (Score:3, Insightful)
They told you that too, did they? Apparently you think that if it's non-PC, it must be true and intellectually brave to believe.
But false advertising hardly seems the answer (Score:4, Insightful)
But false advertising hardly seems to be a way to start a relationship you'll actually enjoy.
For a start there's the aspect that you're essentially starting your relationship with a lie. It's not a way to say "let's trust each other" in the long run. Once you're aware that she lied her ass off to land what she thinks is a prize male, what else is she lying about? It's not even a way to boost confidence, as basically if she was after a generic prize male and not after someone actually matching or anything, you're nothing more than a fungible commodity.
But that's not even the most important part.
The more perverse part is that it's selecting someone whose personality is pretty much guaranteed to not match hers. A guy who's actually into camping and going fishing and traveling to exotic locations, is going to want to actually do that. That's what he's interested in, and that's what makes him happy. But if she really hates those, only put those in to seem more attractive, and is actually into watching soap operas and shopping... that's not going to be all that good a match, is it? At some point down the line it's either going to mean a lot of being alone on weekends for her and whining about how men are so insensitive as to go fishing and leave her alone, while the guy is still doing his activity solo in spite of having been mistakenly thinking that he found a girl to accompany him. Or it's going to mean her freezing her ass off in a tent on some mountain and hating every minute of it, just because she lied about it before. Or various other variants of essentially not being particularly happy with what the other's actual interests are.
On a site designed for matching interests, why not, you know, actually try to actually match interests?
If your interests are shopping for clothes, why not put that down and maybe find a guy who's also into shopping for clothes? Granted, he'll probably be gay, but still... ;) Or at least someone who knows up front what he's getting into, and is prepared to resign to that fate.
Essentially, I'm reminded of The Beauty And The Beast. It's apparently actually a story which can cause women to stay in an abusive relationship, because they learned that eventually they'll change the beast. (At least according to one study.) Or even essentially look for the most fashionable beast on the block, because, hey, you can change him later. Except the beast never changes, and nagging him will just get you to see a bit more of the beast part. Usually coming at high speed at you.
In this case she's choosing to attract the kind of person which is pretty much guaranteed not to actually like the real her. It's just fishing for a different kind of beast. And if anyone is thinking that either beast will change, they're still going to have a funny surprise down the road.
Re:Like many nerds, you are over analysing (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:The female responses . . . (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:The female responses . . . (Score:3, Insightful)
If the US wasn't filled with people who are so obsessed with acquiring wealth at all costs, maybe we wouldn't have so much crime, violence, stupidity, etc. Guess what? YOU are responsible for raising your child. If you do poorly in that regard, YOU have failed your kid. And pawning them off on a day care at 3 months old until they start first grade, just because you want to drive a Cadillac instead of a Civic, is failure (no offense to those who have to do this, only to those that choose to do this). But if your life revolves around work and money (as it apparently does), then DON'T HAVE KIDS.
Moreover, the point here is that we're discussing marriage in an economic contract sense. It's like incorporating. My family, as a unit, are considered an individual for tax purposes. A married dual income couple are considered one individual with a very large income. You're essentially arguing that a person who lives alone and makes $70k per year (1/2 income, 1/2 expenses, 1/2 taxes) is being taxed to death, and that's just not the case. The tax code is more complicated than this, and the married dual income couple actually comes out far ahead of two single people, but that only serves to reinforce that there's no reason to feel sorry for them.